Hey, everyone! Today’s blog post is about something that most of us have experienced at some point – the fear of disappointing our parents. I want to share my experience with this issue and explain why I decided to disappoint my parents by pursuing my dream of becoming a stylist.
First, let me clarify that there are two types of disappointment. The first is when you screw up, and your parents say, “I’m not angry; I’m just disappointed.” That’s the worst feeling ever, and you should avoid it. You don’t want to hurt your parents’ feelings or be a bad kid, so try to behave yourself and make them proud.
The second type of disappointment is when you go after your dreams, especially a goal you know you were meant to do, and your parents don’t support you. This kind of disappointment is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s okay to disappoint your parents if you know your actions are right for you.
I’ve known since I was a little girl that I loved fashion. My earliest memories are of me playing dress-up and making clothes for my Barbies. I was a total introvert and couldn’t communicate or express myself until I got my hands on some style. Fashion was my language, allowing me to connect with people and express myself in ways I couldn’t before.
I started a fashion club in high school and put on fashion shows. I loved fashion so much that I decided to go to college to study fashion design. When I told my parents about my decision, they were hesitant. My mom had shared with me that she also wanted to go into fashion when she was my age, but she worked in retail. She thought that’s what would happen to me too. My dad made a deal with me; if I went to a fashion college in-state, he would help pay for my education. If I went out of state, I was on my own.
After I graduated, I realized that most fashion design jobs paid very little, so I worked retail instead. I got a nine-to-five job to pay the bills, but my dreams were almost crushed. My parents were almost right; I was close to clothes but wasn’t living my dream.
However, after a few years of working a nine-to-five job, I quit pursuing styling. I’ll never forget the phone call to my mom. I told her I had left my job but didn’t have a new one. I was $18,000 in debt and had negative money. I could feel her disappointment, but I knew I was meant to do this. I was told to work in fashion and be my boss. I was going to make it work, and I did.
Over the past 13 years, I’ve had a successful career as a stylist, making millions and millions of dollars. If I had listened to my parents, I would have lived a completely different life and wouldn’t be where I am today. I’m glad that I decided to disappoint them and follow my dreams.
I’m not saying that you should disappoint your parents for the sake of it. Instead, think about what you want to do, and don’t let someone else’s opinion of your future stop you from trying. It’s better to try and fail than to wonder what could have been.
Disappointing your parents is not necessarily bad, especially if you’re pursuing your dream. I’m glad I decided to disappoint my parents and become a stylist.