One thing most women fail to realize is that what you wear almost always directly correlates with what’s going on inside.
Now before you get all defensive and start throwing out exceptions to the rule, hear me out. I’ve been working as a personal stylist for over a decade, and I’ve seen it all.
So today, I want to walk you through a few common internal struggles that manifest themselves through poor fashion choices.
It is not uncommon for women to struggle with body image issues. Whether it’s wanting to lose weight, having lost weight, or the inability to keep weight on – we’ve all got a struggle in that department. The solution that most of us come up with is to hide behind baggy clothing in an attempt to cover up “flaws” or to minimize unwanted attention.
Money often stands in the way of people’s style. They either don’t have enough money to dress how they want or have the money, but they can’t seem to part with it because they were raised to believe “money doesn’t grow on trees.” When I come across clients who grew up poor, they can’t bring themselves to buy new things. Instead, they sport hand-me-downs and wear clothing well past its prime.
If only people cared less about what “other people” thought of them, the world would be a very different place. This style struggle has two extremes:
1.) The fear that people will think you’re trying too hard, which causes women to shrink themselves down to almost nothing, sporting dull “don’t look at me” outfits instead of dressing to align with their authentic selves.
2.) The fear of not being enough causes women to overcompensate by dousing themselves in labels to show the world they’ve “made it.” There is nothing wrong with labels, but when you’re overdoing it to impress others things get pretty ugly.
I see this with a lot of my mommy clients! They put their families above themselves. Sounds noble, but if you don’t take care of yourself how the heck are you going to take care of your kids? It’s the airplane oxygen mask concept; you get your oxygen first and then hook your kid up.
Believe it or not, those aren’t the only style struggles out there. So if you didn’t resonate with the ones I shared, I suggest you hop on over to this page to discover your struggle.