Anti-Style Type: Worn Out Wendy
A lot of people think that style is “fun,” but the truth is most people experience style as stressful, painful, and downright frustrating. We tell ourselves style isn’t important and we get defensive when someone tells us that it is.
The whole point of this series isn’t to shame people with “bad style.” The goal is to illuminate the underlying issues that manifest itself through our wardrobes.
This series is for people who are ready for a change, for people who can see their flaws as an opportunity for growth.
With that being said, let me introduce you to Worn Out Wendy! The second Anti-Style Type in the series.
Worn out Wendy wears her clothing FAR past their prime. Her clothing is old, tattered, and stained. I know and have worked with quite a few Worn Out Wendy’s and let me tell you something, they are a tough customer!
Wendy truly believes no one notices but the reality is, everyone notices. I’ve even come across some “undercover” Worn Out Wendy’s who rock their pit stained shirts under a jacket to be slick. What happens when the jacket comes off, Wendy? What happens.
So what’s really going on?
In my experience working with clients, nine times out of ten Wendy grew up poor. So we can blame this behavior on her upbringing.
Listen, we all grow up with different stories. Some grow up poor, some rich, and some land somewhere in the middle (raises hand). When you grow up with less, you have a different mindset attached to money and “things.”
Pros: You place value on what you’ve got!
Cons: A scarcity mentality is attached to the items you do have so you can’t let them go.
It’s a bit of a vicious cycle because when you live in that head space, you often produce more lack. I don’t know if y’all are ready for my abundance mindset jelly but if you’re interested in letting me know and I can recommend some books to check out.
Even though Wendy has grown up to be a very successful woman she still can’t let go out being “broke.”
The Wendy in my life makes good money, has a great job, and is a kind person, but she’s HOOKED on being “broke.” This lousy fashion behavior has trickled down into other areas of her life, which means she isn’t reaching her full potential. Not to mention that 99% of the time she is miserable.
So how do we fix this?
Wendy needs to start purging her closet!! Easier said than done but you’ve got to make room for better things in your life. There is a way to do a closet cleanse, and there is a way not to do a closet cleanse. When you do it the right way, and for the right reason it won’t hurt at all – you’ll feel GOOD when it’s over. Give it a shot and let me know how it goes.
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