I am a believer in fashion and all of the power that it wields. For me, it isn’t just about how you look, and how you feel (btw, both crucial). It’s about what clothing can do for you.
So many of us mindlessly put on clothing and don’t give it is a second thought. I’m here to tell you that you should be giving it a second thought each and every time you get dressed AND for every occasion.
Even if you don’t fully believe that what you wear can work to your advantage in all areas of your life – on some level you know it might work. Who doesn’t, at least, kinda-sorta believe that dressing to impress at the workplace could help you gain more respect (and money)? Or that not looking like a total hobo while running your weekend errands may influence how salespeople treat you? That upping your sex appeal on a date might help you land a husband?
If you aren’t a believer, you should consider changing your mind because the way you dress has a much bigger impact on your life than you think.
Now it’s time to get personal, perhaps a little too personal as the title of this post implied.
The reason I never let my man see me in ugly undies.
Just as the garments you wear that the world sees contain some level of power, the clothes you wear underneath also hold a shit-ton of power.
I remember the exact pair of underwear I was wearing the first time I slept with my last boyfriend. Um, did I mention I have a freakishly good memory when it comes to things that are pointless to recall? Anyhow, they were pretty ugly, yellow with flowers on them, and God only knows which hideous bra I had on that night. I didn’t know I was going to be getting busy that evening and even if I did, don’t think there was even one cute piece of lingerie in my drawer. I distinctly remember feeling self-conscious, which isn’t a great mood to cast for a night of, what should be, filled with passion.
We went on to date for several years, and my underwear game stayed ugly for all of those years. He had already seen me in my ugly undies once and didn’t care, plus he said sexy lingerie wasn’t his thing. Here’s the deal, though, feeling hot is MY thing. It has nothing to do with him. I wanted and needed to feel sexy and desired – I simply couldn’t do that in ugly undies. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not blaming my sexual slump solely on my undies, BUT I know they had something to do with it.
Suddenly I was single and reluctantly ready to mingle. I added some single-girl looks into my wardrobe and replaced ALL of my underwear with pieces that made ME feel sexy. I’m talking everyday undies, all the way down to I might get lucky undies. Even if there wasn’t a date on the horizon, I felt sexy and powerful as I went about my day. It wasn’t about the man; it was about me. The second I ditched my ugly undies for good, the way I felt about myself changed.
Fast forward to happily coupled Lauren. I no longer consciously think about the sexy underthings as they relate to my man, taking care of my lingerie wardrobe has become a habit. My man will never see me in ugly undies because I don’t own any! I know that wearing the right things under my clothes makes me feel good, and when I feel good, my relationship can flourish.
So when a pair of your panties have passed their prime (you know what I’m saying ladies), then peace them out! Say “Bye, Felicia” and hello to a lingerie wardrobe that makes you feel like the sexy, powerful woman that you are.